I remember the first time I tried to wear makeup. What a mess! I didn't have a clue what I was doing I went based off of my friends and I probably looked ridiculous trying to walk out the door. Thank God my mother pulled me back in the house and didn't let me go out that way. Alaina tried to wear some base one day I quickly put an end to that. I simply told her she looked fine and that at this age she can wear simple things like lip gloss. I to this day do not wear alot of make up and the best thing I can do for her is to guide her to what is appropriate. I know she is interested so I have shared with her lipglosses and about neutral colors that will enhance or polish a look. I want her to understand that she can not leave the house looking like Bozo the clown and she is a beautiful girl naturally.
Then she decides to cut her beautiful long hair. Well she did ask and at first I screamed, No way!! I thought about my hair and how I wished I had her hair and if I did I definitely would not cut it. But it is not my hair. After several weeks of her showing me different pictures of short cuts I finally decided, "Oh it is just hair it will grow back!" and in the back of my mind I thought I am gonna hate it!! Turns out she looks adorable!! In addition, it swayed me to cut my hair short as well!! However, It does not look as cute.
All in all, communication is the key. Finding what is best and appropriate at this age is definitely important in helping her try new things at this age and build some self confidence and self esteem about the way she looks. As a mom, I am doing the best I can to have an open mind!!
Alaina; me? well i think that the wearing makeup thing defintely has its boundaries. natural is best for girls my age so moms, give in to your daughters that they CAN wear makeup but on YOUR terms. Also, ask yourself what YOU were doing at her age? maybe you were the same way?
plus, wanting my hair short? hey, it was an artistic decision!:D ive always wanted short hair but i knew it was gonnna take a while to talk my mom into it. after showing her a bunch of hairstyles we both agreed on one, and we both loved it. so, moms if your daughter wants to do something drastic like cut her hair or even color it, COMPROMISE. if she does want to color it, maybe agree and take her to the salon on her birthday or a holiday. help her choose the color(nearest to her natural hair color that you both like) its also a great bonding experience.